Man four pages and still no boobs! WTF!
My relationship is considerably different than the OP's so I can't offer any constructive advice. I buy what I want, and I buy my wife what she wants. I do what I want, she does what she wants. Usually there's no conflict there.
(She'll tell you that I buy exactly what she tells me to, and do exactly what she wants, but that I'm simply not aware of it since she's an expert at mind control.)
She may be right. I'm the one that works but she's got the only copy of our ATM card. I drive a beat up pickup truck with mismatched fender and no working radio, she's got a newer Expedition that's in mint condition with DVD player.
Dude. Face it. Bottom line is you're as screwed as I am, so get used to it. Men really have nothing to offer women that beats what they can offer us men. So we lose every time.